About Internal Freedom
Internal Freedom is a psycho-spiritual approach to healing and to awakening.
Depending on what your needs are, we can focus more on healing (ego strengthening), or on awakening (ego transcending).
In practice though, both may be weaving in and out of each other; they are not separate. In awakening we realize that all of life,
including all of our problems, relationships, sufferings…are included in What we are.
Internal Freedom is a collection of discoveries, processes and tools which I have discovered over the years, and which I am using according to the need of the client at any moment. The transformational journey, or healing journey of Internal Freedom is not linear. There are however several key ‘steps’ we take, integrating them as we go through the process. There are six of them, in no particular order. Except that Awareness is the ground for the whole work; without awareness, nothing exists – nothing can heal.
The reason why you come to see me may be because you’re struggling with your finances, with your marriage, your eating, or anything else. I will help you become aware of the deeper layers of what’s seemingly going on. We basically take stock of where you’re at and also of what you want – which is a very important step. Without knowing what we want, we can turn in circles endlessly.
2. How to deal with the mind
We are being driven, guided, pushed, motivated, blocked – by the mind, by beliefs and stories we hold dear. The mind is a very powerful tool, and nobody ever shows us how to use it, how to deal with it. It can be also very dangerous, mostly when we believe everything it thinks!
The information on the ‘law of attraction’ is one attempt to help people how to use the mind. It is very limited however and lacking important key information. In Internal Freedom I teach you how the body-mind works, so that you can become more aware of your thoughts and realize how they affect the body. You also discover that you are not your thoughts.
3. You are not who you think you are
While we start to explore your unconscious thinking, me guiding you by asking questions, you will start to experience that you are not your thoughts, you are not your emotions…your are infinite, spacious…all words are simply pointers…., just like the blue sky. In this image, the beliefs you are holding would be simply clouds in front of the sky. They don’t touch it ever, in any way. The highest goal of this work is in fact for you to live as the blue sky, where all experiences, people and circumstances are coming and going in this vast, open, free, peaceful space. This realization is called Awakening.
And now, in October 2016, I am adding this ‘pointing beyond the mind part’ – as opposed to ‘working with the mind part’, as I feel called to help people wake up to the Truth of Who they Are.
4. Healing the past
That’s where we do a lot of trauma healing. Trauma is an event where you felt hurt/threatened/compromised…which caused you to remain partly stuck in that psychological ‘atmosphere’. Often, when painful emotions get activated in your body, you may automatically reach for food, or a drink, or do anything compulsively, in order to not feel the pain. Thus, trauma is the root cause of addiction, compulsion, anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, anger issues, and often also relationship troubles.
I help you go back in time and get in touch with the child you were when you fwent through this painful situation. We now help it see the situation in a new way (change perceptions/beliefs) and offer it all the love and support it can muster, to help it grow up freely. If we do not heal trauma, we live with these painful, repressed emotions. They don’t go anywhere – they remain in your psyche waiting for you to free them. They control you from the inside out, and can create tensions, and sometimes illness in the body. These repressed ‘pain-points’ are like landmines in your psyche: each time you experience something which you unconsciously associate with that event in the past, you will experience an emotional reaction. You may have no idea why this is happening to you. These pain-points from the past influence your perceptions and your decisions, without you knowing it. I hope you can see how truly helpful trauma healing can be.
Summary: You may have trauma if you suffer from addiction, compulsions, fears, anxiety, phobias, physical illness, relationship issues which seem constantly repeating themselves – and the list could go on…
5. How to deal with emotions
‘Emotion’ means ‘energy in motion’. When we allow feelings to be, they simply move through the body like water flows down a hill.Simple and natural. When we cling to feelings and push them away, they will continue trying to push up into awareness, so we will acknowledge them. This is key important work for healing and freedom to occur.
I will show you different ways how to deal with your feelings. Depending on your need, it may be appropriate to teach you different tools to transform the energy of the emotion.
In other situations I may guide you and hold space for you to be fully present with an emotion, discovering deeper layers to it, divers body sensations, and eventually falling through them all into the stillness which holds all of it.
6. Empty Mind
You will experience that beyond thinking is Peace – deep Stillness. This is your true nature, this is What you actually are: the ground of Being, Awareness, or Love, Peace, Spirit…As this Reality is beyond words, no words can ever accurately describe this ‘space’. It just IS. I will teach you tools to go beyond thinking so you can finally just BE. I will also, most importantly, point you towards where to ‘look’ (not with your eyes), in order to ‘see’ the Truth of Who you Are.
This is putting words to a process which is happening beyond words, so forgive me if this is not accurate. There is so much more going on in our sessions, and it is beyond words. Beyond words is where there is no ego, (no ‘me’) only Reality, or Love, and this is what creates the transformation in us. It is not the words, not the tools, not me….it’s so much bigger than that!
Not sure if therapy would be good for you at this time?
Then I suggest to ask yourself this question:
Do you feel you repetitively avoid, get triggered, or are driven by certain activities (such as eating, drinking, sex, working…), people, situations, or feelings? Looking underneath such movements, we often discover emotional pain that wants to be healed. There is no shortcut, or ‘getting rid’ of emotional pain. If we don’t look at buried feelings which are acting like land-mines in our psyche, they will drive us all our lives into choices and decisions we may not make otherwise. They are keeping us from feeling light and free – and they can all be released/healed- which is the work we’re doing in therapy.
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If you feel you’re done with struggling, and realize there are always new issues and difficulties that life is offering you, you may just want to surrender and see what happens. You may have come to a point where you realize it’s not ‘you’ controlling your life anyway.
You may also see that it’s always the ‘me’ which has problems: At the core of all dissatisfaction, suffering, wanting, hoping and fearing is this person who we think is ‘me’. You may have gotten tired of the stories about ‘me’…
If you feel you are somewhere along those lines, I will be guiding and pointing you beyond thinking, to the Stillness that is your true Nature; to What is un-thought, unborn, un-created, and not of the realm of the mind-body (which is the object of therapy). The discovery of Who I am is the birthright of every human being. Some are ready now, some later, it’s all fine. We can not ‘make’ ourselves ready; we can’t ‘make’ awakening. It’s just the opposite: The ‘me’ who thought she/he was doing all these things, needs to be overlooked completely for a moment – for a split second. That is when we can ‘see’ what Is always here. It is so ordinary and always present that we have been overlooking It all along. The mind is playing an ongoing movie into the Stillness, into the Presence which is always here, always was, always will be. ‘It’ is not of the mind; ‘it’ is free, silent, aware, and it is Who we Are. It’s not an ‘it’, not an object – words actually cannot describe our true Nature, because words are only symbols, pointers, they are not IT.
If you feel this is what you’re yearning for or have any questions, please click here and we can have a conversation.
I came to Marlise with a variety of issues, the most prevalent being financial. I realized I had some unhealthy beliefs around money and wanted to make some shifts. Marlise helped me to not only see where I was blocking myself, but to shift those belief systems.
After only a few weeks of working with her, our business has erupted. We just had our most lucrative month ever and I know that was due in large part to doing this work. (The irony is that we are working less hours than ever!)
She is a profound and gifted healer. If you want to change your life I highly recommend working with her!Craig Rigsby
I feel for the first time in my life that my relationship with food is loving and free. Chocolate and chips are no longer guilt foods. I was at a party and didn’t feel any drive to grab for drinks or snacks. The desert I had, half of it I gave to my husband. There was no need to shove it down. I could enjoy it without guilt.
M.B. Whistler, BC
I feel so free after our work together! I don’t feel I need to prove myself to any body anymore. I feel I have released my need to get attention from men. I have no fear left; I feel totally ok. I just am!M.W. Montreal, PQ
Throughout my sessions with Marlise I learned to identify the negative beliefs that had been hindering my life and change them. She gave me the tools I needed to assert myself, break the behavioural cycle and stop living the role I had been trained to play for my whole life. She taught me techniques to cope in difficult situations and stand up for myself. Marlise was a pillar of support for me in my journey to becoming the happy, self-confident woman I am today. I cannot thank her enough for the difference she has made in my life and recommend her to EVERYONE, period.
K.G. Vancouver, BC
I have been in a state of joy and bliss for three days. I feel calm with people. The physical anxiety I always had is gone. I walk through the streets and feel we are all connected. All these people, I used to feel connected through suffering, now I feel connected through joy! The doors are open, the light pours out, and the journey has just begun!A.B. Squamish, BC.
I wanted to let you know that I am doing really well and that your work with me helped me a lot and I am forever changed. I have stopped drinking, and I have started my own business! I am really enjoying the journey. So thank you once again for your love, compassion and your wisdom.T.A., Australia
Marlise equipped me with great tools around letting go of what does not serve me any longer: using specific meditation techniques to calm my mind and create shifts in my thinking. I feel a massive shift especially around addiction and my need for perfectionism as a compulsion, as well as my lack of control about what other people are doing.
I would recommend Marlise to my dearest friends and family with complete confidence that she could help them learn to shift their thinking for the better. 100% confidence. Confidence I would bet money on:-).S.T. Santa Barbara, US
Marlise, I will never be able to express what you have done for me. I walked in your office scared, confused, stuck in a place surrounded by a dark wall…..(now) I feel so brilliant inside, full of light and wanting to burst out and share with others. Your ability to help people to be true to themselves is a great gift that you have. People can learn to help with books to a degree, but it also takes something within to connect with people and I feel you have that. God bless…N.K. Whistler, BC
Thank you so much for the work we’re doing together. It’s made a profound difference in my life. I notice myself responding to situations and to life in a way that is balanced, non-reactive, and from a space of being at ease with the world – even while the challenges of life remain ongoing. What a blessing! I find myself able to stay present with what’s happening in a completely transformed way compared with before we began our work together.
After my work with you came to a close, I walked out of your office and into the world an entirely new person! Not only did we heal the issues behind my 10 year eating disorder, but I felt like my eyes were open and I was awake for the very first time in my 22 years on the planet. The seeds which were planted during my work with you have continued to this day to shape my experience as a human being and my perspective on the world as I continue to draw from the principles I learned from you, and apply the techniques (such as EFT) when I encounter new obstacles in my life.A.R. Melbourne
I’m so grateful for all of your help. I’m still asking what I want and I feel more in touch with it than I did before. My husband and I also really opened our hearts and communication and our relationship feels solid again. Phew!!! So thanks again for all the support and for calling me into my truth. I think we have both opened to new opportunities. Thanks a billion for being one of my teachers. Loads of love!K.H. Melbourne, Australia
I felt very peaceful for the last few weeks. I feel very liberated from the abuse (sexual abuse from childhood). It’s dissipated, it holds no power over me anymore. I feel safe for the first time, safe to know that I am not a victim.A. B. Squamish, BC
Sending you lots of love and gratitude that we are able to continue sharing our journeys. You have been one of the most influence people I’ve encountered in my life, and I am so grateful for the way you have helped open up my worldview and my heart. Meeting you has truly changed my life.A. R. Melbourne, Australia